Parents of Grown Children
I was not ready. I’m now a parent of grown children. Everything changes. It’s bad form to complain when they no longer have time for you. The point of parenting is to raise men and women who are no longer dependent on you. I’m no expert at this, but I’m learning an important lesson for parents of adult children. Instead of telling your grown children what to do, ask them what the are learning, how they feel, and what they think. And then listen. Validate. Be compassionate. And then, if necessary, offer suggestions. This lesson applies to leadership too. The point is not to get them to do what you want. In fact, it’s really not about you. The questions are for them; it’s how you show love to an adult child. It’s how the Father leads his children.
“Everything is in readiness now for this, my third visit to you. But don’t worry about it; you won’t have to put yourselves out. I’ll be no more of a bother to you this time than on the other visits. I have no interest in what you have—only in you. Children shouldn’t have to look out for their parents; parents look out for the children. I’d be most happy to empty my pockets, even mortgage my life, for your good. So how does it happen that the more I love you, the less I’m loved?”
2 Corinthians 12:14-15 MSG