Harsh words. Some will say, “Wow! He’s so blunt.” Others will say, “She’s refreshingly honest.” No matter. It’s our response that matters. A humble heart turns, changes, and makes a correction. Despite the jarring words from a friend, a parent, or a counselor, it’s God’s kindness that underlies any human words making an appeal for a changed heart.

“I know I distressed you greatly with my letter. Although I felt awful at the time, I don’t feel at all bad now that I see how it turned out. The letter upset you, but only for a while. Now I’m glad—not that you were upset, but that you were jarred into turning things around. You let the distress bring you to God, not drive you from him. The result was all gain, no loss.”

2 Corinthians 7:8-9 MSG