Tom Marshall, a pastor from New Zealand, said there are four ingredients in a Relationship:

  1. Love, which lasts longest;
  2. Trust, which is the most fragile;

  3. Respect, which is most often neglected; and,

  4. Understanding, which takes the most time.

Notice that Marshall did not say “Compromise, which lessens the other ingredients” is necessary to have relationships. The world will tell you to compromise, but that’s not relationship. It’s not compromise God does; it’s sacrifice. It’s not selfish narcissism God expects, it’s integrity.

God himself is in perpetual right relationship, Father-Son-Holy Spirit. He invites us into that family, which is his consistent appeal to us and through us.

“Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark? Does Christ go strolling with the Devil? Do trust and mistrust hold hands? Who would think of setting up pagan idols in God’s holy Temple? But that is exactly what we are, each of us a temple in whom God lives. God himself put it this way: “I’ll live in them, move into them; I’ll be their God and they’ll be my people. So leave the corruption and compromise; leave it for good,” says God. “Don’t link up with those who will pollute you. I want you all for myself. I’ll be a Father to you; you’ll be sons and daughters to me.” The Word of the Master, God.”

2 Corinthians 6:14-18 MSG