It happens all the time. When you move from one place to the next, one school to another, one job to the next. It’s the way it is.

You might have been on the inside, but then you’re on the outside. As the Bruce Hornsby song goes,

Don’t believe it. It’s not fate. You’re not on the outside. You’re you. You’re the only you there is. Be yourself. Be authentically you.

The search is over

You may feel like an outsider among some. But the important thing is this: On the inside, it’s just you.

Even Jesus asked, “Who do people say that I am?” Mark 8:27

When you know who you are, who you are made to be, you’re free on the inside and you can really welcome anyone alongside the authentic you. You don’t need to make anyone else feel like they are on the outside.

Our deepest calling is to grow into our own authentic self-hood, whether or not it conforms to some image of who we ought to be. As we do so, we will not only find the joy that every human being seeks–we will also find our path of authentic service in the world.

Parker Palmer on “Becoming the Person You Called to Become (Not What the World Wants of You)