13 Reasons

I recently watched 13 Reasons on Netflix. I recoiled at first. I am one of the few who didn’t read the book, so it surprised me. I can’t imagine why someone would document all the reasons for committing suicide. And then name them, the reasons are people in this high school girl’s life. I thought this girl, Hannah, must have hated these people, as much as she hated her own life. But then I watched. 

It was not out of hate that Hannah made those 13 tapes, telling the stories of how these “friends” failed her. No, she seemed to want to like them all. She made herself vulnerable, over and over again. She had no malice. She just didn’t put up any guard around her heart. 

So, in the end, Hannah took her own life. And she left behind tapes for all 13 people to hear. She wanted them to know how their choices hurt her and others. She left behind a message of brutal, naked truth.

That truth led to destruction for some, and for a few, it led to a deep revelation of the need to be honest, gentle, and caring. 

I really didn’t like 13 Reasons. It was sad, and it showed the act of suicide; the graphic, violent, and horrible act that it is. The producers decided to show that horrible act. I think they were wrong. 

If you do watch this Netflix series, please take note that Hannah didn’t have to kill herself. It’s not wrong to be a gentle soul, a vulnerable and kind person. However, it is wrong to take all the hurts and turn against yourself and others. 

My biggest objection? I say this with a measure of shame. It sounds like I am blaming her. I’m not. Nevertheless, Hannah didn’t have to go to that party, and get into that hot tub. She knew who lived there. 

Everyone will be forgotten, nothing we do will make any difference, and all good endeavours, even the best, will come to naught. Unless there is God. If the God of the Bible exists, and there is a True Reality beneath and behind this one, and this life is not the only life, then every good endeavour, even the simplest ones, pursued in response to God’s calling, can matter forever. – Tim Keller on “Why Calling Matters”